With all of my traveling, it was hard to keep a constant friendship. I have many friends, but we would meet once a month or so. But there is one friend that has always been there for the past six years, and we’ve never actually met in person. That probably sounds strange to most people, but social media was good for one thing (aside from finding ways to catch a cheater), it helped me find my bestie.
Social Media Friends
For many people making friends on social media is the only way they have to meet new people. As people get older, it can be a lot more difficult to find people that they have things in common with. But on social media, it’s easy to find friends that you can bond with over the love of a TV show, a dedication to puppies, or whatever other hobbies you might have.
Where I Met Julia
I met my best friend in a Facebook group for travelers. With all my travels and everything else going on in my life, getting out to social events wasn’t going to happen. So when I clicked with another traveler who was on my side of the world in my Facebook group, I was excited. Soon we were messaging every day. Then we started talking on the phone and texting. And the friendship just grew from there.
Long Digital Friendship
Over the years she has shared important milestones of my life. She’s always been there for me when I needed to chat, or wanted to vent. We have a weekly friend date where we watch Lifetime movies or a TV show together on Skype or FaceTime and discuss everything going on.
I’ve been there for her too. As her life has changed and grown I’ve been there for the 3 AM panicked phone calls when one of the ways to catch a cheater actually worked and she proved her boyfriend was cheating. Of course, the celebration when she got a new job. When she got engaged, I was the second person that she told.
The idea that online friendships aren’t somehow as valid as in person friendships is ridiculous. Social media gives us the chance to connect very deeply with other people. It’s a convenient way to get to know people. These days people are so busy with life. We all think it’s impossible to carve out an hour to go have coffee or a drink with a new friend. It’s easier to make time for Facebook messages or online chats or texts.
But just because the way that we make friends has changed doesn’t mean that the nature of friendship has changed. Even though my best friend and I have never met in person, I have no doubt that she will always be there for me. And I’ll always be there for her. We are finally meeting in real life though! When I fly to her hometown to help her pick out a wedding dress next month. I’m glad we found ways to catch a cheater and moved her on to bigger and better things!
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